Wow, what a year it has been—I feel like I’ve lived 10 years in these past 12 months, growing and changing every single day.
I thought that I would wrap this year up by looking into the future—not the past. Here are some things that I want to take into the new year with me.
1. MORE Self Love
I feel like this is on my list every year, and there’s a reason for that. It’s because it’s so damn important. We live in a society where the standard is “not enough”. We’re never making enough money, we don’t have enough time, we’re not pretty enough, we’re not smart enough, we don’t have it all together so we’re not enough. These are all things that we’ve heard adults say our whole lives, and then we grow up and we start saying them ourselves.
To me, this way of thinking is literally poison and believing these things because everyone else does is just aiding to the problem, not solving it. I know that we all have our moments where we want to feel pity for ourselves. It’s easier to complain than it is to be positive and change your thought patterns. But I say SCREW THAT—YOU are enough. I am enough. WE are enough. We need to shift our society’s belief pattern, and that starts with ourselves. I am going to continue on my path to ultimate self-love: being kind to myself, pushing myself just as much as I push others, being bold, being brave and most importantly putting myself first. What use are you to those around you when you’re not living your best life and being your best self.
2. Be More Conscious of Unconscious Stressors
Traffic, bad sleeping habits, bad eating habits, not taking enough alone time, other people’s problems, negativity that lives in our spheres. All of these things are stressors that surround us daily—it’s our job to acknowledge them, and then live consciously. One of the biggest lessons that my boyfriend taught me this year is to set intentions around your actions: have purpose behind what you say and what you do. Other people’s demands and expectations are actually the monsters that live under your bed—they will consume your life if you live unconsciously. Please be more aware of this, I know that I certainly will be.
3. Let Go
One of the biggest lessons that I have learned in the past year is learning to let go. I will be the absolute first to admit that this is hard for me. I’m in a constant battle with my mind to fight over-analyzing—playing out every scenario and writing my own irrational script. I am going to continue my pursuit of letting go of expectations, perfectionism, and wanting to have all of the answers before I make a leap. Letting go of the the past, letting go of what other people think about me, letting go of those things that no longer serve me.
4. Be Assertive
One of the greatest gifts that I was given in this lifetime is my compassion for others. I’m able to feel extreme depths of emotion not only for myself, but for the people in my life. However, that compassion has also led to a habit that doesn’t serve me at times—passivity. Some of the greatest changes and accomplishments that I have made in this past year were when I was asserting my values, standards and commanding the life that I want to live. In 2018, I am going to continue pushing past my passivity, speaking up and not being afraid to be vulnerable.
5. Take More Risks & Be Fearless
That comfort bubble is way too easy to stay inside—it’s safe, familiar and predictable. Some of the most empowering moments for me this past year came in those heart racing, sweaty palm moments. Mel Robbins lives by the 3-second rule, she says that you have 3 seconds to ACT and take action before your brain starts to talk you out of whatever you’re choosing to do. I want to thrive within those three seconds, continue to do the uncomfortable because what lies beyond those three seconds is worth it.
2017 was the year I needed. There were some huge lessons that I needed to learn. Better yet, there were even bigger issues lying in my closet—things that I needed to be faced with. 2017 was the year that I could no longer suppress those things, and the craziest part is that I didn’t even know that I was suppressing them. So many times I had to have really tough conversations with myself, be raw and truthful. But each time, I became an even closer version to my best self.
I’m so excited for what this new year has in store for all of us 🖤